
Since 2018, I’ve been deeply involved with Age Friendly Teaneck’s (www.agefriendlyteaneck.org) four-week summer internship program for high school students, known as Exploring Careers in Aging. The program has two main goals: to give students the opportunity to learn about a variety of careers in aging (ranging from health care to architecture and construction) that they might not have been aware of; and to combat the many stereotypes about aging that are still far too prevalent in our culture. We encourage intergenerational connections with visits to a variety of venues where interns and elders can find common ground; and we aim to combat the isolation and loneliness that can arise in part because of the culture’s misconceptions about aging.
One of my roles throughout the internship is showing films that center on some aspect of aging, and conducting discussions with the students after each screening. One of my favorite films – and the one we show first – is “Lives Well Lived,” a documentary by filmmaker Sky Bergman. I love this film because in the process of interviewing 75 people between the ages of 75 and 100, we get to know so many women and men living active, productive and meaningful lives, talking about what, exactly, makes for a life well lived. They are all positive, they have a sense of purpose in their lives, and they are clearly resilient. It is inspirational. And it offers plenty of food for thought for our interns.
Sky embarked on the documentary by interviewing her then-99-year-old grandmother, to show how active and engaged in the world she was: cooking, socializing, going to the gym and reflecting on her life and what has made it so meaningful. Sky then broadened her lens to include many other elders to learn about their lives too. These were not people who had lived a life free of hardship or heartache.
Many recalled the traumas of World War II: one being separated from a parent in fleeing a country; one being forced to live in an internment camp (and becoming a widow with two young children as her husband fought for this country), for example; the challenge of starting a new life in the U.S. Others were active in the civil rights movement; or
Creating a Movement
I admire Sky greatly because her own story didn’t end after she had done this documentary. It has evolved into a movement that connects elders and members of younger generations, to share their experiences and outlooks, which has enriched the participants. And she is determined to encourage others to find ways to bridge the gap between generations and to understand “the transformative power of listening to and learning from each other,” Sky says. “Ageism diminishes when generations connect.”
And so she has published a book, “Lives Well Lived: Generations — Resilience, Positivity and Purpose at Every Age” to spread that message. The book is divided into several sections that roughly mirror Sky’s own evolution: why she decided to do her documentary; glimpses of many of the people she features in the documentary, quoting their observations; and how the movement to connect generations has grown. Of great value are the roughly three dozen chapters written by intergenerational program directors from all across the country – with links to their websites – about what they do, how they do it and what the benefits have been.
Programs range from the social (such as sponsoring intergenerational dinners) to such pressing issues as housing affordability and voter registration. The book also includes considerable guidance for those who are interested in either screening the film and starting a discussion about it; or starting an intergenerational program of their own. There is more guidance on the website www.skybergmanproductions.com. The book is available on Amazon at https://a.co/d/aBvvbaG
Two years ago, one of our Age Friendly Teaneck interns was so taken with the film that she decided to do her end-of-internship project about a few people in our town who had embarked on their second chapters. And we also arranged for her to interview Sky by phone. I can tell you that it was hard to tell who was more enthusiastic about this interview, our intern or Sky herself. Which to me proved the essential wisdom of this intergenerational movement.
AMAZON: bit.ly/LWLAmazon
iTUNES: apple.co/2YpODcI
PBS Passport: pbs.org/show/lives-well-lived
KANOPY: kanopy.com/en/product/12391561




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